Hey y'all, it's Avery here. Today I wanted to talk about something that's been on my mind a lot lately - heartbreaks. As someone who has had her fair share of breakups (seriously, I've lost count at this point), I feel like I've learned a thing or two along the way. So grab a seat and let me spill some tea.
I remember my first breakup like it was yesterday. It was in sixth grade, and Tommy Johnson broke up with me because he "liked someone else." Ouch, right? At the time, I thought my world was ending. But looking back now, I realize that it wasn't the end of the world at all.
Since then, there have been plenty more breakups - some initiated by me and some by the other person. Each one hurt in its own way, but they also taught me valuable lessons about love and relationships.
One thing I've learned is that communication is key. In almost every breakup scenario I can think of, lack of communication played a big role in things falling apart. Whether it was not expressing how we truly felt or avoiding difficult conversations altogether, silence never solved anything.
Another lesson learned is that self-love should always come first. After each breakup, instead of wallowing in self-pity or seeking validation from others to fill the void left behind by my exes' absence (trust me - guilty as charged), focusing on loving myself became crucial for healing and moving forward.
And speaking of moving forward...that leads me to another lesson: closure isn't always necessary for healing to begin. Sure ,there were times when closure helped provide clarity and peace after a breakup; however sometimes closure just wasn't possible or healthy for either party involved .In those cases,I found solace knowing that sometimes letting go without resolution could be its own form 0of liberation
Lastly,breakingup doesn’t make you any less worthy.I usedto believe tht being single mean noone likesyouor tht therewas somethigwrong withme.Butthetruthis,you areworthyand deservingoflove whether yourinarelationshipornot.It tookme awhileto fully understandthisbutonceidid,itwasliberatingknowingmyworthwassonotdependentonsomeoneelse’sopinion.
So there you haveit,friends.Lessonslearnedfromheartbreakspast.Thankstoyears offailuresandinvaluableexperiencesI’vegrowntobeaversionoffearless,independentpersonwhoknowsherown worth.Andifyou’regoingthroughabreakuprightnow,Ihope thesewordsbringyousomecomfort.Remember,yougottakeepmovingforward.Yourhappinesissoworththejourney.